There are many things to consider when planning a wedding. Whether it’s an open or closed registry, the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, or what food is served – there are many choices to make.
People-pleasing is a common practice when it comes to wedding planning, but it’s important to remain true to yourself and your partner.
1. It’s a Celebration
Your guest list will determine the rest of your planning, including what kind of venue you’ll book and vendors to hire. When deciding on the number of people you want to share your special day with, consider how much time you want to spend with each person (and whether it’s possible for everyone to attend).
Create a budget and figure out what is and isn’t a priority for you and your fiance. This will help you know where you can save or splurge.
Tip your vendors, if you’ll be doing so. It’s customary to give musicians, DJs, florists, hair stylists, makeup artists and drivers tips on the day of your wedding.
Send out your invitations and make sure your MOH has a copy for herself (and is keeping track of responses). Schedule final beauty appointments and trials and buy gifts for your parents and bridal party. Drop off ceremony extras like the unity candle, programs and more to the venue.
2. It’s a Celebration of Love
It may sound obvious, but it is crucial to remember that your wedding day is all about you and your partner. Whether it’s the first time you say your vows or stand up to deliver a toast, be sure to shut off your phones (and any other electronics) and live in the moment.
If you and your fiance have a large wedding party or family members who are traveling to get to your special day, consider hosting a welcome dinner the night before your ceremony or in lieu of your rehearsal dinner. This is a great opportunity to express your appreciation and introduce them to any family and cultural traditions you’ll be incorporating into your ceremony.
Once you have all of your RSVPs in and have a final headcount for your reception, create your seating chart. It’s also a good idea to send this over to your caterer and indicate any dietary restrictions so they can prepare accordingly.
3. It’s a Celebration of Family
One of the best things about getting married is that it’s a chance to bring together family and friends. Whether you’re hosting a brunch or a formal dinner, the day is an opportunity to celebrate your loved ones.
If you’re planning a religious ceremony, designated guests or family members may be asked to read passages from the Bible (one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament and the responsorial psalm). These readings are often very moving for everyone present.
Regardless of whether your wedding is religious, secular or civil, most ceremonies include an exchange of vows. Whether you follow a standard format or write your own vows, they should be heartfelt and reflect the true meaning of marriage.
It’s easy to get lost in the details of planning a wedding, but it’s important to keep the big picture in mind. Before you get knee deep in seating charts, napkin colors and first dance songs, read these expert-approved tips for making the most of your wedding planning experience.
4. It’s a Celebration of Friends
It’s possible to take on the planning process on your own, but working with a planner can really help reduce stress levels. It’s also a great way to share the experience and get advice from people who know the ins and outs of wedding planning.
Choosing your guests is another important task to complete. You’ll want to think carefully about whether you can afford the number of guests you want (and how many spaces you’ll have at your venue) and if there’s enough time to spend quality one-on-one conversations with each person you invite.
If you’re hosting a destination wedding, consider how the dates will fit into travel schedules for your friends and family. It’s a good idea to set your wedding date at least a year out to give your friends and family plenty of time to make arrangements. Also, keep in mind the local calendar when setting your date; a popular event or festival might mean hotels and B&Bs will be booked up with attendees.
